Racism is fine, as long as liberal Democrats do it. The Huffington Post, created by Zaza Huffington and bought by AOL actually has an article up entitled: ‘When Dating, Stick to Your Race.’
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As my friend concluded his bitter story, I found myself mentally reciting some of what I’d heard over the years, the voices of others expressing the same idea — that when dating, it’s best to stick to one’s race.
After being single for something like two years, I found myself saying, among other things, I want to be with a worldly man. By this, I wasn’t hinting towards materialism, but rather using worldly to describe an open-minded, knowledgeable man, a man whose mindset far surpassed anything I’d ever known, anything — in other words — I’d ever been exposed to.
When I uttered this statement, I had no particular man in sight. I hadn’t visualized his features, much less his race. I had put out the intent, while simultaneously focusing on becoming better. This time around, I wasn’t wasting energy on determining the details or micromanaging the possibilities. With time, however, I slowly began to understand that in order to have the kind of relationship I wanted to have — as opposed to the immature one I had been a part of years prior — something, and likely not just me, had to change.
Over time, I’ve learned that stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. Whether we like them or not, for the most part, they hold true. I noticed this, not just with my ex-boyfriend, but in the men he surrounded himself (and therefore me) with. I’d heard men say things like: “If she’s with me, I don’t want her getting too friendly with my friends.” “A woman’s purpose is to have children.” “I can’t be with a woman who doesn’t cook.” That narrow-mindedness mixed in with the will to control is typical of Hispanic men. And like a typical Hispanic woman raised around those types of remarks, I internalized what I’d heard, became resentful and coped by getting loud. In short, I, too, matched a stereotype.